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Wednesday, 7 February 2018

January 2018

Just like that January has left the building. January was a busy month and one that passed too quickly. For the most part I felt like the weeks felt like minutes as there was so much happening. In one month I had experienced a plateau of emotions and challenges. Mostly personal and mostly due to new adjustments to everything that was happening in our lives. Many days I felt like I was struggling to keep my head above the rising water levels that was new projects, new responsibilities and just an overall learning to find that new sense of equilibrium and balance. 

January Highlights





New Year's Day









We celebrated NYD in Singapore this year and it was a lovely break from our usual New Year's tradition. I did miss the beautiful medley of fireworks that could be seen from our apartment but the time spent together was worth all of it. Even the gloomy rainy New Year's Eve in Singapore couldn't dampen the mood.

The kids had a lovely time especially LittleLim who truly enjoyed the train rides and the beautiful light display feature at The Shoppes, Marina Bay Sands. It was a nice end to 2017 and a great start to 2018. 

New Term, New Class 


LittleLim started a new term in pre-school with a new class and a new homeroom teacher. Some of her previous classmates has moved on to different classes and school which was a huge change for her. Especially when one of them is a close friend. Needless to say the first week of school was a huge challenge for her as she too had to adjust to all the new changes. There were mornings when she would cry because she didn't like the new changes and mornings where she would want to be with her old homeroom teacher. Those moments broke my heart but at the same time, it's all part of growing up. During these fragile moments, I'm thankful that her new and old homeroom teacher eased her to the changes. They were understanding and kind - holding her hand through each step of the way. Her old homeroom teacher never "abandoning" LittleLim and would greet her at the front gate and introducing her to her new teacher every morning. Her new homeroom teacher constantly persevering to gain her trust and build a friendship. As a parent, I am at ease at the dedication her teachers have for their students and I am comforted and thankful for them. 

It is always hard leaving your child in a new environment and not being able to "control" the situation. This was the reason why I delayed sending LittleLim to pre-school because I could not let go. But knowing my daughter is in good hands makes the process easier. After the first week of tears, LittleLim adjusted to her new class, new teacher and new schedule. She now loves school and enjoys her time there. Every morning she wakes up with a smile and tells me she wants to go to school. These moments are the signs I need as confirmation that she is in a good place.

Busy Month

It's been a pretty full on January with a lot happening. Hubbycat was having a full on time at work with a lot of travelling involved which meant I had to do single parenting during those days when he was gone. It was hard because I also had a lot of things to do which led me to taking a step back and check my priorities again. I guess at the end of the day, my heart will always be the kids over all the things I want to do. I won't call it a sacrifice because it really is a no brainer and I gladly accept it. On the one hand, I'm glad I have really supportive family members who understand this and give me space and time to do what I need to do first. Of course I feel bad whenever I can't deliver what I said on time but I'm also thankful for their understanding. Of course, if possible, I'll try my hardest to be on the ball!

Interior Decorating


This month I had to get our rental unit ready to be rented out for CNY. Now this is an exciting project, one I volunteered myself up for! We just took possession of our SOHO in MK and I told my dad to let me decorate the place and set it up. To be honest, I was a little bit nervous because the last time I dealt with vendors and dappled in Interior Design was 4 years ago with our own home. Even then, Hubbycat did most of the work. But I told myself to learn and I'm glad I did. Together with my sister, we've been going up and down the place, checking with our vendors, getting furniture and decor and it's been really fun. Thankful for amazing vendors also who has not let me down yet *fingers crossed*. We've decided with doing the minimal on this unit but still let it look "designer" enough because let's face it, we can't have a crap place in MK. It's been challenging trying to keep the cost low especially for me who LOVES shopping, but we are getting there. So far we are within budget. So far. Anyone looking for a place in Mont Kiara, email me!

Birthday Planing


 



On top of that, I had two birthday celebrations for LittleLim to prepare for. One for LittleLim's Birthday Walk in school and one party for all of LittleLim's special friends. That was crazy and challenging because instead of my usual 3 months in advance planning, I heroically or stupidly planned it with 2-3 weeks in advance. It was chaotic trying to find things and plan but we did it!

LittleLim is Three



Then we entered Threenagehood. I thought two was bad and then three came and kicked two in the butt. Now we deal with even more drama which on some days are really adorable but on other days it's really a test of patience. A LOT of patience. Now she has an answer to EVERYTHING and even no answer, an answer will be created. Sometimes, it's just NO and that's it. It's annoying but at the same time, as my dad always says, she's my daughter and inherited this from me. So there's that.

But for the most part, my baby is three. She's asking to hold boy's hands and has a say in everything. She loves dressing up and pretty shoes. She loves all the boy things but also girl things as well and that's just how we raised her up. To be gender blind as long as possible and that she can be a gun wielding, mudslinging, punch throwing woman or a damsel in distress or just both, because why not? In our house there are no boy toys or girl toys and there are certainly no gender roles here. Whatever a boy can do she can do too and whatever girls can do she can choose not to. It's just that.

On top of that, at three she's a firecracker and there are no dull moments. I look forward to the next 12 months with this one. It's going to be crazy but hey, beautiful moments come from even the ugliest days. So there.

And that's January all summed up. Looking forward to what is installed in February! CNY is just around the corner and it's my favourite time of the year. Wtf but yes, the Chinese in me has started to love CNY ever since I got married. Haha.

-Ally

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