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Thursday, 2 November 2017

I Wish I Started Earlier

As age catches up with me, I am starting to realise the benefits of certain habits. Habits I wished I knew about earlier or have started earlier. Things I wish someone had told me before or insisted I do. But as the saying goes, it's never too late to start and it's always better late than never. Here are some things I am starting to realise is important now that I am almoooost 30. Hopefully next time, I am able to pass these habits on to my kids and hopefully they will listen to their dear mother. 

Skincare Routines & Skincare Products


My mother wasn't a huge skincare / makeup person. She probably only had one cleanser that did all the work. It worked for her but unfortunately not for me. I struggled with bad skin in my teens and the worst time for me was in university. I was using the wrong products for my skin type. Coupled with poor skincare routines I looked like the moon, craters and all. 

It was at 21 when I started reading more and found out that my pimples were caused by dry skin and not oily skin. This was revelation because I realised that those pimple treatments I was using would only make things worst because they dry out the skin and pimple along with it. I up my moisture and true enough, things did cleared up! Since then I started a skin care routine that I try to stick with till today. I also started going to a beautician and have my skin taken care by the professionals does make a difference. I do see a huge difference and it's true, the more love you show your skin the more it behaves. 

I have tried many products in my teens to adulthood and I've learnt one thing : NEVER STINGE ON SKINCARE. If you have to choose between makeup or skincare products, always choose skincare products. It wasn't until 4 years ago I bought my first expensive skin care product - Keihl's and I have never looked back. Today I only buy trusted brands and have settled for my few favourites - Keihl's and Laneige. They are mid-range and for now they work well for me and my skin. When I grow older I'll definitely be venturing into more expensive brands that are more tailored to my skin. I do try other brands on the side but I realised you do get what you pay for. I also learnt that you should never stinge on your skin, the biggest part of your body! What you put on your skin is just as important as what you put in your mouth. I sometimes wish I started taking care of my skin earlier and maybe I wouldn't have so many dark spots, huge pores and maybe have smoother skin.


Diet


I always have a love hate relationship with food. I was never "fat" but definitely been chubby. My high school and first year of uni was when I was at my heaviest (even heavier than I was pregnant!). Due to stress, poor sleep habits and bad eating habits I ballooned up. My weight was like a yoyo and it messed up my system. It wasn't until I turned 21 when I got things in order and I started losing the weight. But then I became obsessed with losing weight and went over board. I suffered poor digestion, poor bowel movements and just felt weak overall. It wasn't until I wanted to get pregnant in 2014 when I took my diet seriously. I had to put on a bit more weight before I could get pregnant and then I had to make sure I ate properly to give my baby the best. It wasn't easy because in my head I equated eating with fat. It was a struggle to get over that but I had my baby to think about.

I learnt that it isn't how frequent you eat but portion sizes and what you put into your body. I still have cheat days where I have my binge but for most days I try to ration my portions and choose what I put into my mouth wisely. I wish I didn't waste so much time worrying about how fat or thin I looked, feeling guilty about over eating or under eating and treating my body like crap. Life is too short to keep worrying about weight and how fat you feel. A little confidence can go a long way.  Feel and act beautiful and the world goes along with you.

Managing Money


My parents have always taught my sister and I to save. Always save 10% into your emergency funds, 10% into investment and 10% into general savings. The rest budget out your living expenses and whatever extra is your splurge money or put into extra savings and investments. I have always been poor with handling money unlike my mother and my sister. I take on my dad's shopaholic tendencies. I also don't like handling money like dad. I would live hand to mouth, whatever I had I spent. It got me into a lot of trouble. A LOT. But in retrospect, that trouble was what I needed to get things back into order. It was the wake up call I needed. At 22, I sat down and started planning our finances and micromanaging it. That wasn't very wise as well because suddenly I didn't want to spend any money and would calculate EVERYTHING right down to the cents. I was miserable and unnecessarily stressed out. 

It wasn't until I turned 24 when I started following my parent's advice. Set aside appropriately and spend within our means. Splurge once in a while because what is life without some excitement and enjoyment? I've also picked up a bit on investing to grow our finances. Sometimes I do wish I had started earlier and not waste so much time (AND MONEY!)

Making Friends


I am an introvert. I hate being put in a situation where I have to open myself up to strangers and have small talk. I hate small talk. But life is what you make of it. If you isolate yourself, life is just what you know it to be and it is only as big as the people in it. I realised the importance of connections and having meaningful friendships. Connections are important to get you places, to broaden your horizons and open doors. Meaningful friendships are what makes life meaningful. To have a circle of trusted people who have your back, understand your situations and to do life with. It's even better when the two cross over and business partners become friends or friends turn business partners. Life isn't a one man do all thing. That being said, I don't have time and don't want to waste time on superficial relationships. I don't want the feel good only friends and I don't want to be a feel good only friend. Deleting toxic people from my Facebook and my life was the best decision I've ever made. Since then, I told myself to always be real and to treasure the people still in my life. At the same time be open and make friends because you never know who will come into your life - like the amazing group of mommy friends I am blessed with. 


Hobbies


I always thought hobbies are a waste of time I do not have. It isn't until recently when my hobbies started getting me attention was when I realised that it's good to have hobbies. Hobbies are a way to discover yourself and to open up the possibilities of friendship, money or lifeskill. You never know what or where your hobby will lead you to. Go learn something new, pick up a new skill, take a course - never try never know. If you don't like it try something else. If anything, you've gained exposure and experience. 

So what are some of the things you wished you had started earlier?

-Ally

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