Tuesday, 18 October 2016

When One Child Is Enough...

As LittleLim approaches the big TWO, the question of "Are you going to give her a promotion to big sister?" have been coming in quite frequently from the impatient great-grandmothers, grandparents and busybody aunties. 

While I'm not really bothered by these questions, I am also on the fence on this one. You see, after LittleLim I do like kids more and having a second one really isn't that big a deal. Sure, it would be nice.... but I'm also at that stage where I'm enjoying LittleLim's independence a whole lot! I mean I'm finally feeling more like myself again and it feels good. Like having an orgasm good (oops tmi much?) and the thought of a second one feels more tiring than exciting. Let's be honest, LittleLim as much as she is the cutest little thing in the world, isn't exactly the easiest. She screams, fusses, demands and requires A LOT of attention. Oh, the amount of tears I've cried can probably fill up the entire dead sea. 

One child is great. You don't have to split yourself in two and worry if both are still alive, fed, happy etc. You don't have to buy two of everything. You don't have to pay two tuition fees. You don't have to find four pair of shoes when you're in the rush to get out of the house. You don't have to discipline two when they misbehave. You don't have twice the worry, fear, anxiety etc. You don't have to think about two birthdays, weddings, etc. You don't have mom guilt wondering if you're giving both equal attention. You don't have to get a bigger house. The list can go on and on and on and as superficial and selfish as it sounds, it really is much better to have one child.

I'm also at a point where I do enjoy my private time with LittleLim. Somedays I look at her and just feel like she's growing too fast. I want more time with her. More memories, more everything with her. But I know that she will make a great big sister, she will love him (or her) and I am positive she will enjoy having the extra company seeing how sociable and friendly she is toward everyone. 

So while I'm totally okay with one child, that isn't to say we're not planning or trying for a second. All I can say is, let God's will be done. If it happens it happens. I also want to add that there's nothing wrong with having just one child. 


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