Monday, 18 April 2016

Dear Amelia, You Are Responsible For How You React.

Dear Amelia, 

You are responsible for how you react. There will come a point in your life where you will be told things you don't like or agree with. Sometimes it will come off judgemental, rude, insensitive and condescending towards you and your person. Other times it will be tactless, careless and blunt. It will be hard to listen and you will not like it. I'm sorry I can't protect you from these things but I want you to know that just because you don't like to hear them doesn't mean the other person doesn't have a right to voice them out. Just because you find it offensive or harsh doesn't mean the other person isn't entitled to their opinions, comments and believes. 

Instead of feeling victimised, I want you to rise above it. Rise above the things said and move on. Don't feel slighted, hurt, offended or insecure by these words but instead use wisdom, patience and understanding. Be tolerant and forgiving - say what you have to say and move on. Never shut another person up just because you don't like what you're hearing because no matter how hard it is to hear, sometimes you can learn a thing or two in the process. Even if at the end of the day whatever that is said is untrue, blasphemous or just rude - they too are entitled to their say. Defend when necessary but other times, it's best to just walk away.

I know it's hard to hear and I know people can be cruel but always remember that you are responsible for your own reactions. While you should never control what others say, you can control how you react. In this case, I hope you be brave, strong and wise. I believe my job as your mother is to equip you with what is necessary to face the world and I for one do not believe that shielding you from the evils that is out there. You need to know the evils and you need to know how to deal with them. I will not baby you so if there ever comes a time when you're faced with things you don't like to hear, deal with it and move on. 

You're empowered and able to be mature about these things. And if there is even a shred of truth in what is said, evaluate it and learn from it. We love you darling and we don't want to see you stunted because you cannot be responsible for your reactions. 

Love, Mommy

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