Saturday, 7 November 2015


By now everyone would have heard about Essena O'Neill. If you haven't, go look her up. I'll wait until you catch up. Okay, done? Good. 

Now here's my truth,

I skipped chunks of her story. I scoffed. I rolled my eyes. I laughed.

Don't be mistaken, I didn't judge her - that's not my place, I just could not believe how this story is deemed "valuable" news and how people are mindlessly eating it up just because it sounds nice. Yes, it's extreme, it's radical and I guess people like that. I don't. Because all I see is a publicity stunt just like Adele, just like Bieber who all shouted "retirement" and look where they are now, back in the spotlight. I see Essena screaming I don't want this, I want to be real and then she's counting numbers and getting masses to support her cause. Yeah, sure. 

But what really irks me is the lack of responsibility. She claims to want to be a "positive role model" but I have yet to see any positivity other than not wanting to chase likes. But truth be told, I don't see the problem with chasing likes. I don't see the problem with spending hours editing a photo to look good. I don't see a problem taking care of yourself to be on point. I see it as a job and hard work was put into it. What I didn't like is that she fails to address a bigger problem - herself. Not once did she take responsibility of her emotions and instead she put the blame on Instagram and her sponsors. Trust me, shutting down Instagram will not bring you self-worth. Not chasing likes will not bring you self-worth. She will soon find other ways to get self-worth, not until she herself realises that her self-worth comes from knowing who she is, she will not get satisfaction. I know because I've seen it way too often. 

Also, if she was so convicted that social media was the devil's spawn, why make such a huge exit? Couldn't she have left quietly ala Kevjumba style? Why make such a huge stand, come up with another platform on social media for her cause? Why direct masses to her cause if she doesn't care for numbers? Because under it all, she is still finding her self-worth. 

And if anything Essena has taught me is that self-worth is what you make of it. You are responsible for what you let into your life. You are what you make of yourself. Clearly she chose to make a life that stifled her and that made her unhappy. Who did that? Certainly not Instagram. Certainly not social media. So maybe if you want to learn something, learn this - God gave you a pair of hands. Whether you use it to build or to break, it's up to you. Whether you chose to make something beautiful or (sorry for being crude here) to masturbate, at the end of the day it's you who is controlling what your hands do. Are you saying your hands are evil and has a mind of it's own? So just like Instagram and anything else - these are tools given to you. 

At the end of the day, you are responsible. As I love to remind people, No one owes you a living. No one owes you happiness. No one owes making you feel good about yourself. If there's anyone, it's you. Always will be YOU. 


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